Talking with a significant other about money related decisions is not usually on our list of favorite things. Financial experts suggest one reason why we may struggle to communicate about money is that we are unaware ourselves of the underlying values and beliefs that inadvertently guide those money decisions.
Communicating about value-driven money decisions with loved ones can often lead to contention or misunderstanding when we do not first attempt to understand each other’s money values and attitudes. The way we choose to spend, save, invest, and otherwise allocate our money is often a reflection of our knowledge, personal beliefs, and values—including how we were raised with regards to money management.
To start the money conversation try answering the following questions for yourself and ask your significant other to do the same. Once you have your answers, come together and share with the intent to listen and understand each other’s perspective.
Once you have discussed each other’s answers, consider setting a goal that will help the two of you work together to achieve a money-related objective. For example, you may decide to save for a major purchase or pay off a debt. Whatever you agree on, do it together and decide what each person will sacrifice in order to accomplish the goal.
Having different money values than your significant other can be a great strength in a relationship. Take time to discuss and focus on the positive aspects together. You might find you have more in common than you think.
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